What is that? What is “One-Anothering?” If you are a part of most churches around the world today, you really may not have ever put these words together. But God did put these words together. One of the most vivid ways the Lord Jesus reveals His intention for the church is by a series of statements given about our responsibilities to one another. The phrase “one another” usually represents the Greek word “allelon,” and a consideration of the allelon principle in the New Testament provides us with a tremendous study of what quality friendship and a healthy church body will look like in action. Here is a list of those allelon statements, and what a list it is!
John 13:34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
John 15:12 This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
John 15:17 These things I command you, that ye love one another.
Acts 19:38 Wherefore if Demetrius, and the craftsmen which are with him, have a matter against any man, the law is open, and there are deputies: let them implead one another.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
Romans 12:16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.
Romans 13:8 Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
Romans 14:13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.
Romans 14:19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.
Romans 15:5 Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus:
Romans 15:7 Wherefore receive ye one another, as Christ also received us to the glory of God.
Romans 15:14 And I myself also am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another.
Romans 16:16 Salute one another with a holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you.
1 Cor. 4:6 And these things, brethren, I have in a figure transferred to myself and to Apollos for your sakes; that ye might learn in us not to think of men above that which is written, that no one of you be puffed up for one against another.
1 Cor. 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Cor. 11:33 Wherefore, my brethren, when ye come together to eat, tarry one for another.
1 Cor. 12:25 That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have the same care one for another.
1 Cor. 16:20 All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.
2 Cor. 13:12 Greet one another with an holy kiss.
Galatians 5:13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Galatians 5:15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
Galatians 5:26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
Ephes. 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Ephes. 4:25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor: for we are members one of another.
Ephes. 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephes. 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Col. 3:9 Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
Col. 3:13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye
Col. 3:16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
1 Thes. 3:12 And the Lord make you to increase and abound in love one toward another, and toward all men, even as we do toward you:
1 Thes. 4:9 But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another.
1 Thes. 4:18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thes. 5:11 Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.
2 Thes. 1:3 We are bound to thank God always for you, brethren, as it is meet, because that your faith groweth exceedingly, and the charity of every one of you all toward each other aboundeth;
1 Tim. 5:21 I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
Titus 3:3 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
Hebrews 3:13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: 25Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
James 4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
James 5:9 Grudge not one against another, brethren, lest ye be condemned: behold, the judge standeth before the door.
James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
1 Peter 1:22 Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:
1 Peter 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
1 Peter 4:9 Use hospitality one to another without grudging.
1 Peter 5:5 Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.
1 Peter 5:14 Greet ye one another with a kiss of charity. Peace be with you all that are in Christ Jesus. Amen.
1 John 3:11 For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.
1 John 3:23 And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
1 John 4:11-12 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. 12No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us.
2 John 1:5 And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another.
Amazing list, isn’t it? So, I ask you the question again: Does your church “One-Another?”
“One-anothering” is a two-way street. It is a give-and-take relational orientation to all that God puts in our path, but especially those who are our brothers and sisters in Christ.
1. We are “one-anothering!” This means that we are aware of the needs of those who God has purposely placed around us. This is a nameless, faceless, and raceless designation that God has called us to without respect of person. This includes old/young, meek/bold, weak/strong, unlikeable/likeable, strange/normal and all other possible groupings that we might find difficult to give to. Go through the list and ask yourself, “Who has God placed in my life that I need to be subject to (1Pet 5:5)? Then fill in that blank with any of the “one-other” commands. This will give you an indication of your obedience to God in this very important area.
2. We are being “one-anothered!” This means that we are alert to how God is using other people in our lives to reprove us, love us, serve us, exhort us, edify us, etc. Are we defensive, and do we build walls to keep people from serving us this way?
Christ Himself is our pattern as He lived for others even to the point of death, the ultimate self-sacrifice. He also was served by others and thus established the pattern to be worked in our own lives by His grace (see John 12:3).